It explores in detail the complex Buddhist concept of emotions/afflictions, and how Western language and philosophy have framed ideas of compassion, mind, and ethics in contrasting ways. Get this from a library! It's always good to hear that the human race is capable of bettering itself in these depressing times. March 30th 2004 The book offers a lot of self-reflection and one of the most poignant takeaways I received from this is how the Dalai Lama had to take a break during one seminar when he learned that Westerners hated themselves. Emotions are not bad, but if we make ourselves think so it can lead to self-destructive behavior. Another nice example is Jeanne Tsai, who was b. The biographies of the participants are as interesting as the topic of the discussion. The marrying of eastern and western perspectives is valuable, informative, and much needed. We are told about the Dalai Lama’s childhood and his interest in science from a young age. [Daniel Goleman; Bstan-ʼdzin-rgya-mtsho, Dalai Lama XIV; Ed Levin] -- A conversation between the Dalai Lama and a group of scientific luminaries about how to control the emotions that trouble us most. How do the actions and characteristics of the god and goddess of love (Venus and her son Cupid) support this interpretation? Self Pity is one of the most destructive and yet most prevalent emotions that I encounter in life as a Pastor talking to people. Neo-Confucianism and Buddhism claim that some human emotions are inherently good, and others almost always afflictive, destructive, and bad. Perhaps the polarisation of Western culture is just a symptom of the scale of this strug. Science Center • Sum and Substance: Destructive emotions such as anger and hatred are convulsing the private and public lives of people around the world. Scientific perspectives represented included the developmental, cross-cultural, social-psychological, and neuro-biological. Social-emotional learning is a well-known idea, even if implementation is slow; putting experienced meditators, monks etc. Thank you Goleman for giving me a whole scene of intellectual exchange of Year 2000 Mind and Life. In Destructive Emotions, Daniel Goleman, the author of Emotional Intelligence and coordinator of the Dharamasala meeting, chronicles these occasionally technical and esoteric discussions with clarity and humor. Support the GGSC by December 31 and your donation will be matched dollar-for-dollar. The book was written as the proceedings of the eighth Mind and Life meeting, having as the main topic destructive emotions. Hopefully one day that day will come when we can all be Masters of our emotions and increase understanding and tolerance in the society. This session helps you understand anger and turn it to your advantage. He seems much more intent on creating a Dalai Lama hagiography than presenting the reader with a pellucid transcript of the proceedings of what, to be fair, does seem to have been an amazing colloquium. I am also glad to know that many more fruitful discussions were carried on after this event and I am curious to know more about them. The Dalai Lama is not only interested in rational thinking, but in the quantitative empirical research which provides answers to important questions. I am quite impressed with the Dalai Lama and his interest in science. The biographies of the participants are as interesting as the topic of the discussion. This book was perspective-changing for me. In order to better portrait the participants, The author also gives some short information about their lives and what motivates them in their research. Greater Good A little background on me: At a time when adversity led to anger that was destroying my physical and mental health (those that know me can easily locate that abyss in time), I found the book Destructive Emotions by the Dalai Lama and Daniel Goleman. This book gave me a lot to think about, (like the idea that anger isn't necessarily something innate we can't get rid of). Available from Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk. It could be from the observer point of view that it took or in that the purpose of the meeting was to just start a dialogue on destructive emotions. I enjoy any article or book connected to His Holiness the Dalai Lama so it was inevitable that I would eventually read this book. Let us know what’s wrong with this preview of, Published The combination of Western science and Eastern philosophy, and how to apply both to our lives, was incredibly engaging. It's always good to hear that the human race is capable of bettering itself in these depressing times. 1. Another nice example is Jeanne Tsai, who was born in the US to Taiwanese parents. By now, this book is twenty years old, so some of its core ideas have since seeped into mainstream psychology and do not look as radical today as they must have back then. Even better if this hope is supported by hard science and fuelled by buzzwords like neuroplasticity and mindfulness. When all fails it always have the patient to blame it on. Being kept down by an adversary was a typical and upsetting experience that could have destructive outcomes. Unfortunately, Daniel Goleman rather gets in the way of the "dialogue” to which the title refers. Sparked by Martin Seligman, a psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania long famous for his research on optimism, a budding movement has finally begun in what is being called “positive psychology”—the scientific study of well-being and positive human qualities. Such a lack of egoism, Ekman added, “from the psychological viewpoint, is remarkable.” Third is a compelling personal presence that others find nourishing. These scholars, with the Dalai Lama’s participation and support, are continuing to discover more about how we experience and can alter our emotional responses—all in an effort to foster global peace and well-being. Such extraordinary people are inspiring in their lack of concern about status, fame, or ego. Summary and Conclusions Emotion Defined The Physiology of Emotion Self-Destructive Emotions The Biological and Cognitive Treatment for Self-Destructive Emotion… Slideshare uses cookies to improve functionality and performance, and to provide you with relevant advertising. They are totally unconcerned with whether their position or importance is recognized. A practical bridge between the mythical elusiveness of concepts like, This is not an easy read. Summary: Self Pity is one of the most destructive and yet most prevalent emotions that people struggle with. I admire the Dalai Lama (duh), but what is truly stunning is his scientific curiosity. The solution is to do something about that ignorance. From the GGSC to your bookshelf: 30 science-backed tools for well-being. Very rarely have psychologists—particularly ones as eminent as Paul Ekman—shifted their scientific lens to focus on people who were in some sense (other than intellectually) far above normal. MENTAL HEALTH TREATMENT IS NOT ABOUT TEACHING PEOPLE WHAT TO THINK, THE REAL HONEST ETHICAL TREATMENT IS TEACHING PEOPLE HOW TO THINK. One of my favorites takes place when the Dalai Lama is asked how we're supposed to have compassion for others. I really appreciated the melding of minds between neuroscientists and Buddhist monks. Taming the Tiger Within (2004), Thich Nhat Hanh Meditations on Transforming Difficult Emotions 293 pages. For example, it is normal to experience sadness when someone dies, but a depressed person is sad in an inappropriate situation or to an inappropriate degree. The format of the book was a little difficult to track at times as the author was the recorder and mediator over a week long conference which included the Dalai Lama and various psychologists, monks and professors. Social-emotional learning is a well-known idea, even if implementation is slow; putting experienced meditators, monks etc. Destructive emotions : a dialogue with the Dalai Lama. The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society. Destructive emotions : how can we overcome them? Unfortunately, Daniel Goleman rather gets in the way of the "dialogue” to which the title refers. In one session, Richard Davidson, a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, presents startling research about how the brain acts before, during, and after emotional states. Highly informative. Never before have a I heard a religious leader say that if scientific evidence contradicts the dogma of a religion, that religion *must change* to accommodate this new data - that's exactly what the Dalai Lama states in this book. This is not an easy read. Their conversations spanned the neuroscience of emotions, the nature of consciousness, and some of the latest scientific findings on how to master negative emotions and encourage compassion. Hmmmmm. Don't be put off by the title: this book should really be called "Positive emotions and how to develop them." Thank you! Hopefully one day that day will come when we can all be Masters of our. CiteSeerX - Document Details (Isaac Councill, Lee Giles, Pradeep Teregowda): Social comparisons may seem to serve several positive functions, including self-enhancement. That is the reason a gridlock can trigger an antiquated enthusiastic example and cause those recognizable nonsensical upheavals. In fact, only in very recent years has psychology explicitly begun a program to study the positive in human nature. Destructive Emotions is an abridged account of a series of presentations and conversations that unfolded over a several day conference between the Dali Lama and several leading scientists in the study of emotions. Author of Emotional Intelligence and psychologist Daniel Goleman has transformed the way the world educates children, relates to family and friends, and conducts business. Frequent social comparisons, however, have a dark side. Rated 4.2 over 2,500 reviews on Goodreads. I too am impress with this religious leader's statement indicating that when complelin, Perhaps one of the most important books I have ever read. Also makes you think about how you can apply the findings of the meeting that was discussed in this book to your personal life. We’d love your help. It brought together the more philosophical side of Buddhism (which could be considered one of the world's oldest and most effective psychologies) with Western psychology. 140 reviews Life has a way of provoking us with traffic jams and computer malfunctions, with emotionally distant partners and crying children—and before we know it, we're upset. I just didn’t care for the “book about a seminar” aspect. It brought together the more philosophical side of Buddhism (which could be considered one of the world's oldest and most effective psychologies) with Western psychology. Psychology has almost entirely dwelt on the problematic, the abnormal, and the ordinary in its focus. I'm an atheist, but I find Buddhism to be a compelling religion. Kerine Wint is a software engineering graduate with more love for books than for computers. Science have its errors, but good honest and ethical science is the best way we have to reach and be in the process of finding truths. The program’s results are extremely encouraging. Our citizens in the United States are scientifically illiterate, and I think it is about time that we start reading more science/. The Dalai Lama is not only interested in rational thinking, but in the quantitative empirical research which provides answers to important questions.